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I Waited For An Hour To Get The Meal I’d Ordered, But What Happened Next Will Surprise You…

I want to share a story with you that happened to me and Deena recently… I don’t share it for recognition but hopefully it can bring a smile to your face… and maybe even change how one sees the world. If your day is a bit brighter because of it, I’ll consider this a success. (Make sure you read all the way through to the end for a couple of additional observations and to share YOUR perspective…)

At A Restaurant In The Poconos

There’s a small restaurant on the lake near the Poconos. Deena and I thought we’d try it out. Looked nice, seemed like it had good food, and of course the surroundings were beautiful.

When we walked in, there were maybe 30 people there.

The server, Sara, was really nice and she seated us and took our drink order and went to get menus.

Minutes passed.

Fifteen minutes later, Sara finally showed up with the menus, then left again, and came back another 5 minutes later with our water.

(Honestly, back in the day this would have pissed me off and I would have walked out. But I’m a little more mature now so I looked around the restaurant while we waited patiently. 🙂 )

While looking around, Deena and I noticed something: our server Sara was the only one working. She ran from table to table, taking orders, delivering food, clearing the table… she probably would have run if she could… and some of the people she was waiting on weren’t very kind to her.

Sara was nearly out of breath when she brought our waters back and she smiled and apologized every time she came by. Finally I told her that there was no need to keep apologizing, we were just enjoying the view out the window. I added, “And it’s not like you’re busy!” She laughed and thanked us for making her smile.

I also noticed something else: while she had stepped up to serve her customers well beyond what she was capable of doing, and really pushed herself to be positive and apologetic at the long wait times, many customers left without leaving a tip and even one person left without paying the bill!

Deena and I sat in awe that others would treat someone like this, especially when it was clear to see how hard she was working.

We Waited And Waited… Finally Our Food Came

A tad over an hour after order, we got our food.

Sara came over and laid the bill on the table as if she was afraid to. She had been berated and yelled at so much in the hour we were there that she was afraid of what we might do.

Deena and I looked at each other and smiled as we were on the same wavelength.

Deena used to serve and we’ve talked about how hard it can be, especially if the manager screws up the scheduling and leaves you to fend for yourself as the front-line staff to a restaurant full of pissed off people.

So we paid the bill (it was like $32 bucks) and then left $100 dollar bill as a tip.

Our meal came to $32 and we left a $100 tip.

Our meal came to $32 and we left a $100 tip.

A couple days go by and we went back to the restaurant… and guess who our server was?

Yep, Sara.

She smiled ear to ear when she saw us and came over and said, “THANK YOU. I don’t know you but you changed my life.

The puzzled looks on our faces prompted her to continue, “I was having a bad day, as you could clearly see that day. But I came to work because I have bills to pay. But I’ve been having a difficult time lately and I’ve been praying for a sign to keep on going.

Then she said, “I didn’t know if I would ever see you two again but I wanted to give you something.” She handed us a card – it was a thank you card.

It was a moving moment and a very powerful one. And I’m writing it to help me remember (for the days when I may not be as patient) and also maybe this story can help others remember, too: always treat people with kindness. And when you’re frustrated by something, observe the situation and realize that the person you’re frustrated at may have the least control – they just happen to be on the front-line, taking a beating because someone else screwed up. And, a simple gesture can change someone’s life forever.

Plant the seeds and reap the rewards. I thank my parents for this… they are amazing and helped me understand this powerful lesson.

Folks, we’re only on this earth for a very limited time. And there’s already enough negatively in the world. Let’s do what we can to make each moment and each interaction a little more positive – you could change someone’s life because of it.

I’ve shared the lessons I learned from this. What did you learn? How would you have handled the situation? Share your input below… or if you a have a similar story I’d love to hear it.

Your Friend And Mentor,
Mark Evans DM,DN

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Are You Focused On Getting Rich Or Getting Free?

I’m writing about getting rich… and frankly, what I’m writing about is probably going to piss you off

… because I’m about to blow up this topic in your mind by suggesting: You shouldn’t bother trying to get rich.

Instead, you should try to become free.

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The DM says: “Don’t bother trying to get rich”

There is a massive difference between rich and free, yet most people confuse the two and end up trying to do one when they should really be doing the other… or when they could even have both.

Let me explain…

Imagine that you’re sitting at a coffee shop at 3 in the afternoon. You see two cars pull up.

The first car is a beige family sedan, nothing exciting. Mom and dad get out of the front and their two kids get out of the back. They go into the coffee shop to order.

The second car is an ultra exclusive Italian sports car, like a Lamborghini. One guy gets out and he’s dressed in an expensive suit. He also walks into the coffee shop to order.

Now, which of the people in these two cars is rich?

Most would guess that the guy in the Lamborghini is rich because of his car and his suit. But what if I told you that he may have a lot of money but he’s stressed out, he’s on his third marriage, he doesn’t have time to hang out with friends, he hasn’t taken a vacation in years, and he works 24/7 just to pay for his lifestyle?

(And if you were measuring only in financial terms, you’d be correct.)

Meanwhile, the family in the modest sedan didn’t work because they had enough money coming in passively to easily cover their bills; mortgage, utilities, trips etc… and they were just stopping here because they had decided to drive across the country on a fun-filled, spur-of-the-moment family road trip before the kids went back to school in the fall?

The guy in the sports car is rich (but isn’t free at all) and the family in the sedan doesn’t seem rich at all (but is completely free).

Sure the sports car might be nice… but which life would you rather have?

Chances are, you answered (like most people) that the free life actually sounds pretty good, even though my description above is far more modest than a rich life.

I’ll bet most people reading this would give up a sports car and fancy suit if it meant that they got to spend more time with their kids.

Well here’s the amazing news: you can have both.

Most People Are Focused On Getting Rich And Totally Overlook The Power Of Getting Free

Getting Rich

If you’re sick of the 9-5 grind; if you know your retirement is at risk because you can’t save enough (plus your kids also need braces); if you know that you’re stuck in this work-every-day-until-retirement grind because you have so many bills to cover… then you’ve probably thought that “getting rich” would be the way to improve your situation.

You’re not alone! Like many others, you might decide that if you’re rich, these problems go away. So you start to think about what it means to get rich and how to get rich:

  • It’s not surprising that legitimate “how-to-become-rich” opportunities abound – from franchise information to small business start-ups… to the lottery.
  • It’s also not surprising (and, indeed, quite disappointing) that illegitimate opportunities abound, too – from pyramid schemes to downright theft.
  • Nor is it surprising that Americans spend A LOT of money on the lottery and in casinos every year. It’s because they’re hoping for an easy windfall to get rich as quickly and easily as possible.

Getting rich can be a frustrating and very elusive challenge. It can take A LOT of work (if you try to get rich without winning the lottery) and IF you do get rich, you may end up a few years later with nothing to show for it but a stack of money but not a lot of happiness.

I completely understand the desire for riches… and the stress it takes to try and acquire them (I’ve been there!!!)

… but RICH will not solve your problems the way you’re thinking. Sure it’s nice but you should really be striving to be FREE or, better yet, FREE AND RICH (which is very different than just being rich).

Getting Free

So what do I mean when I talk about getting free?

… free from having to go to a job every day

… free from “bad” debt

… free from financial obligation

… free from ANY responsibility that you don’t want to accept

What would your life be like if you had that kind of FREEDOM?

12 years ago I had a pretty successful business and I was on a quest to get rich… and unfortunately I was also on the fast-track to burnout too! Then I asked myself an important question (which I’ll share with you in a moment)…

And suddenly the answer became clear. I realized that burning out to get rich was costing me so much.

Instead, what I really needed was to become free.

So I made some changes in my life and that freedom allowed me to spend more time on the beach, to travel the world for 7 years with my then-fiance Deena, and to visit amazing places all around the world!

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The DM – “Livin’ the FREE life!”

This shift in mindset from “rich” to “free” is a game-changer in life.

Here’s The Game-Changing Question To Ask To “Reset” Your Thinking About Rich Versus Free…

What if, instead of thinking about how you can get rich, what if you asked this critical question: What would I do if I didn’t have to go to work every day?

I would suggest that’s the key question to ask, and the answer is far more informative. I believe the answer you get to THAT question is what you REALLY want out of life… not to be rich but rather to be free.

Chances are, if you didn’t have to go to work, you would probably…

  • Spend more time with your family
  • Get up early with the kids and walk them to school – without an alarm going off.
  • Hang out with your spouse a little more
  • Spend more time on the beach or on the golf course
  • Maybe hit the gym a little more often (after all, you’d be less tired than you are when you get home from work)
  • Perhaps you’d take up a new hobby you always dreamed of having
  • Maybe you’d even take the kids on a cross-country trip to build memories!

Maybe your list was similar… and probably longer than the example I listed above.

But see how different you feel answering this question of What would I do if I didn’t have to go to work every day? than trying to figure out how to get rich?

It’s a profoundly different answer (and probably one that brings you more joy).

It’s the difference between RICH and FREE. Rich is just a dollar figure; FREE is a lifestyle. (And yes, it’s possible to become free and rich… but riches without freedom is just a different type of prison.)

Free Is More Attainable Than Rich

Most people who aspire to be rich set a number that they think they need in the bank. Was it $1 million? $5 million? $10 million? I ask this question to people and often get numbers like that.

But now think about the financial “cost” of being free. What was it? Well, what if you could simply replace your current income dollar-for-dollar but just not have to go into work? Would that make a difference?

The people I talk to about this concept are usually shocked to discover that it’s often actually a LOWER amount than what they currently make (since they don’t need to commute every day, pay for parking and lunches, etc.)

So now your task is no longer the near-impossible “how do I save $10 million in the bank?” but rather, “how do I replace my existing income (or almost that mount) so that I no longer have to go to work?”

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The DM: Perfecting the FREE life since December 31st 2005!

And THAT is an entirely different way of thinking that opens up so many possibilities and is far more achievable and realistic… and many can even accomplish this sooner than you even realize!

Let’s talk about how to get free (and rich) in your own life…

How Many Turnkey Investment Properties Would You Need To Be FREE?

There are many ways that you can get free and rich in your life – from starting a business to investing in real estate.

I like turnkey real estate because it’s a hands-off investment that provides consistent, predictable cash flow. (Even with a business you’ll probably have to put in daily effort to find customers but with turnkey real estate, you get an asset that is cash flowing right from day one.)

And the best part is, if you have an IRA or 401k then you can even use that money to invest in turnkey properties so you may already have the money you need to become financially free today!

So let’s look at how turnkey investing can help you.

Here’s a simple exercise you can do to find out your “Freedom Number” – the price you need to become truly free.

(Print this, fill it out, and post it on your wall so you can look at it daily).

  1. How much money do you need each month to live comfortably? (Some people start with the wage they’re making; others add a bit because they want to earn more; others still don’t require as much as they make right now.)
  1. Assuming your turnkey properties can earn an average of $500/month (it varies but that’s a good average to start with) then how many properties would need to have to invest in to pay for your free lifestyle?

My Freedom income number per month is: ___________

I’ll break down the numbers in an example: Let’s say that you currently earn the national average of $50,000/year and you’d like to try and get close to that without having to go into work.

Well, you can invest in approximately 8 turnkey investment properties, each earning around a $500/month net. That’s $4,000/month or $48,000 a year… WITHOUT going to work.

Now, you might be wondering how achievable that is. (After all, you might not have thought before about buying 8 properties.)

Well, if you have the national average of $119,000 in your IRA or 401(k) then you can probably acquire 3-6 properties right now, which will get you pretty close to your freedom number. And you could use the cash flow from those properties plus working (or even some other creative strategies) to fund the purchase of the remaining 2-5 properties.

When people hear this, they’re shocked — retirement is often closer than they ever thought… it’s often a matter of a few months (or a couple of years at most) instead of long decades of toil! Some will even be able to retire by the time they finished reading this blog post, based on their ability to buy turnkey properties to replace their income.

When you started reading this post, did you think that it was possible to potentially retire right now by the time you finished reading this post? Probably not… but when you switch from focusing only on rich and instead focus on getting free (and rich) then it changes the possibilities and you’ll discover that a financially free lifestyle is far more achievable, faster.

So, stop trying to get rich. It’s an elusive challenge that most people fail at. Instead, figure out how you can get free. THAT is a more fulfilling, worthwhile, and ACHIEVABLE goal to work toward.

Your friend and mentor

Mark Evans, DM DN

PS, I’ve been careful to use the words “rich” and “free” in different ways here… with “rich” meaning a high net worth, while “free” means “financially free”. But if you hang around with people who are financially free, you’ll learn that they are truly rich… because they have built a life that is invaluable and full of wonderful experiences and memories.

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The DM Is Addicted (don’t judge until you’ve read his shocking revelation…)

Okay, I admit it, I’m f’n addicted

… seriously I have a massive issue and I need to get it off my chest.

Please don’t judge me… at least not until you’ve read my whole story below.

Years ago, I wouldn’t have dreamed I’d be doing this. Even just a few years ago this wasn’t something I thought I’d do.

But now? I can’t get enough of it…

The majority of the world (and even some of my friends and my own family) won’t understand this addiction, but it’s real and I’m not alone.

It’s controlling my decisions and it’s affecting my wife’s and son’s lives forever…

But I’m not sorry!

… You see, this addiction is something that is rather new to me. (I didn’t know it really existed. It’s sort of like a weird “club” that no one ever talks about.)

This addiction is real and I’m not being silly here, so don’t laugh at me.

My addiction is flying private.

… Yup…

flying private is a real addiction!

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WHY I’M ADDICTED (AND OTHERS ARE, TOO)…

The last time you flew somewhere, how did you go?

Most people try to save a few bucks, they buy economy seating, and they squeeze into those tiny little seats… and are lucky if the flight attendant throws some peanuts at them for the trip.

Those little economy seats barely fit anyone, it’s a tight squeeze to get in and out, and you’re stuck with your knees in your chest for a few hours while you fly somewhere. Forget trying to work on your computer because the regional salesperson of whatever is staring over your shoulder the whole time.

I used to fly economy years ago until a mentor told me to start levelling up my life, then I started flying first class. (If you’ve never read my “Fly First Class” blog post, you’re missing out because some people have called it “life changing” and one of the most important blog posts I’ve ever written.)

Flying first class was fun… and if you are stuck in Economy class right now then maybe that’s the first step for you.

But I have to tell you that I’ve actually since graduated from flying first class and now I’m flying private.

Yes, I get into a private jet and it takes me where I want to go.

And it’s F’n amazing.

The DM and his family are flying private only from now on, wherever private jets will take us.

“BUT DM… YOU’RE CRAZY” (PART 1)

You got to this point in the blog post and now you’re saying, “that’s crazy. Can it really be that much better?

If that’s what you’re thinking, I get it. I understand. So let me ask you a question that is central to understanding my addiction…

What’s more important to you — TIME or MONEY?)

Let me paint a picture for you…

If you and I were to travel somewhere, and I took a private jet and you took your commercial flight, let’s compare experiences…

You leave several hours early to get to the airport. You struggle through the screening process where TSA people poke and prod you and scan you with weird contraptions. Then you wait at the gate for 30 minutes. Then you board and shoe-horn yourself into an airplane seat… and then wait longer while they do a final boarding call and then a final FINAL boarding call for the one guy who’s still pounding back beers in the cocktail lounge. Finally your plane gets going and you have to turn off your phone (at least for the take-off). Your flight takes a few hours, and then there’s a hassle of deplaning with the pushy masses of anxious people… only to get into the terminal and find out that some of your luggage was accidentally sent to Anchorage Alaska, even though this was a routine flight with no connecting flights. You KNOW it gets worse when there are connecting flights, am I right?

And me?

… I show up to the Fixed-Base Operator (or better known as an FBO) which is a little, exclusive dedicated terminal for private jets. I show up 5 minutes before I have to take off; the car pulls right up to the plane. There’s no screening, no body cavity searches. They just grab my bags and put them in the plane for me. I walk up the steps and choose a luxurious seats… perhaps a couch or an armchair with a table (a table you don’t have to fold up before taking off).

… I don’t have to stow my cell phone, I can read a book, I don’t have to deal with a crying baby (unless it’s mine). And when I’m trying to work, no one is sneezing and coughing all over me.

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Lots of work room!
… the flight is fast and comfortable. There’s food and drink and a bathroom whenever I want (no waiting for that weird old guy who visits the bathroom like 4 times on a flight).

… and we land at another FBO where my rental car is sitting at the FBO waiting on me.

Who do you think had a better travel experience? You on your commercial flight or me with my private flight?

“BUT DM… YOU’RE CRAZY” (PART 2)

Now you’re saying, “Okay, DM, you convinced me. It’s a better experience — it’s faster, easier, cleaner, no waiting, more private, more exclusive, no poking and prodding — those sound like great benefits…

… BUT…

… It must cost an arm and a leg.”

My answer is: how much is your time (and sanity) worth to you?

It’s a really big deal (bigger than you realize) and if you’re in business and not flying private, you’re missing out.

After all, the whole reason you are working so damn hard is to buy time right? You are working to control what you do with your time…

… but then for a 2 hour flight somewhere you’re willingly giving up 7+ hours (at least).

They say time is money, so why not fly private?

Truth is I’m typing this to you from the jet… it’s 3:22 PM EST over West Virginia about to land in Cleveland, OH from Palm Beach.

And as a result of flying private on this very flight, I have at least an extra 4 hours to grow my business and or just hang out with the family.

And believe me, I’d much rather hang with the family than to dick around with the TSA and have them looking at me like a criminal. Heck, the last time I flew commercial, the process to get to the gate took nearly 45 minutes and they pulled me to the side to check my computer… I mean WTF are they looking for? I’m all about protecting the world, don’t get me wrong, but come on. It’s just frustrating that the TSA folks think they are big shots, and that’s just part of the process BEFORE you even get to your gate… then you’re waiting and waiting and waiting.

For people flying commercial, it’s mostly just about killing time.

… and I HATE killing time. Time is too precious. I’ve got stuff to accomplish.

You might be looking at all this and thinking, “yeah but someone who pays $15,000 for a one-way trip… that’s just silly, when I only pay a fraction of that to fly commercial.”

Well, if you think this is silly… I get it now… it’s an entirely different way of thinking for someone who values their time:

So, thanks to flying private, I don’t have to wait at the airport, deal with TSA people, deal with lost luggage or connections, and I can work comfortably and privately. And I get back HOURS of my time.

Assuming my flight is 2 hours, then I spend just 2 hours and 10 minutes traveling (compared to your 7+ hours)… and the trip is quiet, productive, and energizing!

Compare that to the 7+ hours to do the same thing by flying commercial.

Now tell me what sounds silly. Spending a couple hundred bucks to put up with that hassle and “killing time” for 7+ hours or spending a few grand and having it simple, fast, fun, and ultra-productive?

That’s a VERY easy answer in mind… and for people who understand the value of that extra time then it’s a no-brainer.

Let me put it this way: how much do you value your time? $50/hour? Then you might spend $250 for an economy class ticket but you’re “spending” another $350 in pure hassle and wasted time.

And me? I’m dropping $15k but I’m flying in total comfort and I’m using that time. Heck, I can do a couple of deals while I’m traveling and the entire trip has paid for itself… meanwhile, you’re trying to hold in your pee because you got a window seat and there’s an angry biker sitting next to you who doesn’t want to move… and right behind you is a kid kicking the back of your seat.

Hell, yes. $15k is a no-brainer.

THIS ISN’T FOR EVERYONE…

The truth is, I’ve known about private jets and I used to sit up in first class on commercial flights and look out the window while we taxied down the runway… and I’d see the jets parked in the hangars and wonder how that could be possible, who are those people were who flew in them, what did they do to achieve their level to fly in those planes, how did they make their money, and I was dreaming about the possibility of just hopping on one of them one day…

… but now I’m on these planes often and I feel super blessed in many ways. I discovered something and if you want to fly private. It’s never been easier.

Truth is it’s easier now to fly private than it’s ever been.

In fact, I recently grabbed some buddies and we flew to The Masters in Augusta…

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Are you scared to pull the trigger on flying private? Guess what, you’re not alone: Even Tony Robbins was scared to pull the trigger on this! (See what Tony Robbins has to say about this).

Again, it will never make sense to the majority of the world… but the folks I roll with are not normal anyways! 🙂

In my mind, it comes down to this: what is your time worth? If you value your time in a low-budget way then you’ll never “get” private travel and you’ll have reached the end of this post and say, “it’s too expensive.” But if you value your time for what it’s really worth, the way you SHOULD value your time (the way I value my time) then this is the no-brainer next step for when you travel.

For those that are ready to take their life to the next level, just message me via email or PM on Facebook and I’ll hook you up with a way you can fly private for FREE once in a while. (No joke).

It’s never been easier to fly private, so why sit in economy class (or even first class) with your face pressed up against the window while I walk past you into my private plane? This lifestyle is within your reach, it’s never been more easier and more attainable and for those who truly understand the value of their time, it just makes sense.

Your private jetting friend and mentor,
Mark Evans DM,DN

PS, I was dead serious about that invitation to reach out to me to find out how you can fly private… even for free sometimes. Just get in touch by email or PM on Facebook. I’ll be watching for YOUR email (and hopefully I’ll see you at the FBO in the near future).