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One Of The Most Powerful And Emotional Things I’ve Ever Done

It’s a Wrap!

My parents were in town this past weekend, and with this in mind, I hired a videographer to interview them.

Why would I do this?

It actually goes back to 2005…

October 8, 2005 was one of the saddest days of my life. It’s the day that I lost my grandmother to stage 4 lung cancer.

I remember the day I got the call from my parents telling me about that grandma had cancer. She had gone into the hospital for a routine check-up and discovered that she had cancer. It was dramatically advanced and she only had 2 weeks to live.

My heart sank and I fell to the ground in my office and wondered, “how the HELL could this happen?” It was a mix of emotion. I felt shock, sadness, regret, helplessness – I loved this wonderful woman.

Did I tell her how much I loved her? Did I remind her often enough how much she meant to me? Did we spend as much time together as we could have spent, doing the things she enjoyed? Did she know how thankful I was for her and the impact she had on my life?

I dropped everything, got into my car and drove to her, just to get by her side to spend as much time as possible with her.

I wish you could meet my grandmother…

Her name was Reah and I was fortunate enough to know her for most of my life, and especially to spend much of her last days with her. On October 8, 2005, she lost her life to cancer but the memories we shared together live on: Growing up near her, I literally would stay all night with her for weeks on end just sitting around watching TV, putting puzzles together, making candles, sharing stories about my grandpa Ben and how hard he worked to raise the family. She was a good ole’ fashion genuinely great person.

Here’s an awesome picture of my grandmother Reah and her sister in a limo I rented for her to go to the family Christmas party. This was the first time she was in a limo and I’m thankful I was able to do this for her. It was a huge hit at the family Christmas party. (I’m so thankful that I didn’t put this off just to save a few bucks. Some folks look at the money plus the put things off to avoid spending money but this was a lifetime memory and the money I spent didn’t matter because the memory was priceless.)


My Grandmother Reah and her Sister Betty in the Limo compliments of The DM :)

So, why am I fighting back the tears and writing this to you? Why am I sharing about the saddest day of my life?

I was recently in a meeting with a great guy named Jim who had a similar story with one of his relatives. We we were talking about life and I told him about my grandmother He then mentioned something he’d read by Brendon Burchard – an author, speaker, and trainer (who is probably most famous for his books The Millionaire Messenger and The Charge.) So I checked out what Brendan wrote…

Turns out, like many other people, Brendon also lost someone to cancer and he recognized that losing someone doesn’t have to mean losing their message and wisdom and love and memory. Like me, he knew that we should celebrate the person’s life for as long as they are with us and preserve their legacy after they’re gone. So he put together a list of interview questions and urged his audience to interview their loved ones as a way to get to know them better and to preserve the important things they have to say.

A record of wisdom and love

Inspired from his thinking, I put together my own questions that I would ask if I were interviewing a loved one. I wish I’d interviewed my grandmother before she passed. I would have a video that I could watch and share with my family.

Could you imagine having a video from your great, great grandparents discussing their life story? It’s as if they reach through time and speak directly to you! Their story could help explain and shape who you are and potentially could become! It’s an influential notion many of us wish we had access to but unfortunately don’t.

Although I never was able to record an interview with my grandmother, I do have an audio that I created for my grandmother in which I told her how much she meant to me. It was recorded on an old fashioned tape deck and it took me all day to create the audio and then I would sit beside her bed – just her and I – and I pressed play and then I held her hand as we both cried and smiled and laughed. I’m so thankful I was able to put the words on audio for her as I know she knew how much she meant to me.

I have an audio of my thoughts for my grandmother but I don’t have a video of her sharing her life and wisdom, and I feel like I’m really missing something important from her! I don’t ever want to make that mistake again with any other loved one. I want to learn from my family and I want to preserve their love and lessons for myself, my family, and generations to come.

That’s why I hired a videographer to interview my parents, which we did when they were visiting recently.

The interview was emotional but I learned so much more about my parents and it was a perfect opportunity to tell them how much they mean to me.

Here are some pictures from that experience.


Palm Beach, FL March 23rd 2015, my mother being interviewed


Palm Beach, FL March 23rd 2015, my father being interviewed

If you need help getting started, I’ve listed several questions at the bottom of this blog post that you can use. Change them up or use them as-is.

Your legacy-building friend,

Mark Evans DM,DN

PS, whether you decide to do one or both, I urge you to do them soon. As I learned with my grandmother, we don’t know how long we have on this earth so make the most of the time you have with your loved ones now. Tomorrow is never guaranteed!

PS, the same lesson goes for you, too: You don’t know how long YOU have on this earth. So make sure you tell your loved ones that you love them, and make sure you make the most out of every single day. If I have a legacy I want to share with this world, it’s this… Live life to the fullest. Do the things you love with the people you love. Don’t waste a moment!
 
 
 

QUESTIONS TO ANSWER WHEN RECORDING A MESSAGE TO YOUR LOVED ONE

Here are some questions that I wrote down to answer when I did my recording for my grandmother. You may need to modify this slightly, depending on who you are talking to…

1. [Name], we are here and I’m so thankful for this opportunity to be able to do this. I have a lot I want to share with you.
2. I wanted to share with you some of my most memorable memories I’ve had with you…
3. I wanted to let you know how thankful I am of you…
4. I wanted to share how you made me feel…
5. I wanted to share with you how special you are to me…
6. I always laugh out loud when I think of… (have them talk about times we had together)
7. I will carry out anything you need me to do in my life and pass the torch on… (What do you want me to carry out on your behalf?)
8. Thank you for being such a great inspiration/ person to me…

QUESTIONS TO ASK YOUR LOVED ONE WHEN RECORDING AN INTERVIEW WITH THEM

Below is a list of questions that you can ask your loved ones. Some of these questions may need to be edited slightly, depending on who they are, and some questions may need to be repeated (such as if you’re asking about siblings and you have several). In some questions, I’ve also added additional clarifying questions in parentheses so you can prompt your interviewee to help them broaden their answer.

Credit: Brendon Burchard created his own list and that list inspired mine. A couple of the questions are similar but I’ve created my own list of questions below. Want to give credit to Brendan for the inspiration.

TIP: I recommend that you hire a professional videographer to help you create a high-quality video that will be cherished and watched over and over.

You can record this in any of the following ways:

  • Be there in person (I would love to do this but I’d start crying on the first questions. Truthfully not everyone is like this of course.)
  • If you’re far away from this person, call in on a speaker phone and ask the questions while they are being interviewed.
  • Or, have the videographer ask the questions and when they finish recording the answers, they can edit you asking the questions. (This is what I did)

Also, you should always have the person you’re interviewing re ask the question. Example:

YOU: “Where were you born and where did you grow up?”
THEM: “Where was I born and where did I grow up? [and then the answer]

Questions
1. State your name.
2. Tell me the date and year you were born.
3. Where were you born and where did you grow up?
4. Describe what your life was like growing up.
5. Tell me about your parents.
6.What do you remember most about your mother?
7. What do you remember most about your father?
8. How did your parents meet?
9. If they had a message to share with their grandchildren, what would it be?
10. What are your fondest memories of your childhood?
11. What are your fondest memories of your teenage years?
12. Tell me about how you met your spouse. (Where did you meet? How did you meet? How did you know they were the one you wanted to marry?)
13. How would you describe your spouse?
14. Tell me about your career. (How did you choose that career? What made you successful at it?)
15. Tell me about some of the best times in your life.
16. Tell me about some of the most difficult times in your life.
17. What helped you get through the difficult times?
18. What events in your life do you think most shaped your life?
19. How did having children change your life?
20. Tell me about what life was like when you had each child. (Repeat this question for every child the person had.)
21. How would you describe the life you lived?
22. What do you want to be remembered for?
23. What are your fondest memories in life, overall?
24. What are you most proud of in life?
25. If you could go back and do it all over again, what would you do differently?
26. If you could make any change to the world, what would it be?
27. What message would you like to share with your family?
28. What things do you want me to pursue in the future on your behalf to keep your legacy living?

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How To Fly First Class (The SHOCKING Secret that was Hidden from Me for Years)

Imagine sitting down in the most comfortable reclining chair, putting your feet up, and sipping champagne that is served to you on a platter…

… and by the time you get out of your chair, you’re in a different country.

THAT is the beauty of flying first class.


DM passed out in first class heading to Bali

I didn’t always fly first class.

When I first started flying places, I lined up with everyone else in the LONG line at the airport, then jammed into the back of the plane like it was a cattle car, SQUEEZED into the seats (“pass the shoehorn, please”) and tried to remain absolutely motionless the entire flight so that I didn’t disturb the guy sleeping next to me (if he rests his head on my shoulder one more time…)

For those first few years of flying economy class, I saw flying as the necessary evil of travel… the uncomfortable thing you had to do to get where you wanted to go. Plus, I like money (who doesn’t?!?) so when I compared the prices of economy class versus first class, it seemed to make financial sense to pick the cheaper option.

Hey, that’s more money that stays in my pocket, right?

But then something changed…

I was talking with a mentor about getting my business to the next level. (Yes, I had a mentor – I still have mentors… more than one actually. You should have a few in your life too). My mentor asked me to think about who the most successful business owners were and how they lived. I listed a few of the people that I thought were super-rich, and how I thought they lived. And on that list I said: “They fly first class.

My mentor stopped me and told me something that SHOCKED me: He said, “Mark, you need to start flying first class right now.

Then he explained why (I’ll tell you why in a moment) and it was a total wake-up call for me and it changed my life.

No joke, choosing to fly first class was a decision that literally changed my life.

I know that probably sounds funny – that flying first class is life changing – but it was for me and I think it will be for you. In fact, if you’re not flying first class right now, I think you should start immediately.

Yes, flying first class gives you better leg room and nicer seats and better food and more drinks but that has very little to do with why you should fly first class. (But of course it’s a great bonus!)

It’s A Mindset Transformation

Flying first class is not just about spending more money to be more comfortable. If that’s all you think it is then you’re limiting your thinking and that might actually be holding you back from making more money and achieving more success in your business and life (however you happen to define the word “success”).

If your first thought when you read this blog post is that you can’t afford to fly first class then I would say that you are limiting your mindset and you will always struggle to play at the level that you want to play at.

Here’s something my mentor told me… “Select Excellence over Adequacy.” (stew on that)

The first few times I flew in first class it was a financial stretch for me, too. But I believe that if you can afford to fly, you can afford to fly first class.

Flying First Class Is Really About Expanding Your Thinking

The most successful people in the world (however you define the term “success”) don’t wait until they’ve reached a certain level before playing at that level. Rather, they start playing at the level they want to be at… and THAT’s how they achieve that level.

When you fly first class, you adopt the mindset and practices of the most successful people, even if you have not achieved “success” (however you define it). You’re stepping into that role and living it and that allows your mind to expand.

This is a huge boost to how you think about yourself: A lot of people think, “when I am successful, then I’ll fly first class” but they never really define what “success” is so they end up stuck in economy class and it reinforces the belief that they aren’t successful yet. They wait in the long line at the airport just to check in, and then more long lines and uncomfortable chairs.

Meanwhile, those of us in first class have an entirely different world of experience: we have a shorter, faster line through security and within minutes we’re sitting in a comfortable first class lounge sipping on a cocktail and eating free food. (And most of the first class lounges have showers so you can clean up and get refreshed). They call you before the flight, so you can be sitting in a nice lounge closing deals, working on your computer with a desk, while you wait for the call. And when the call comes to board the plane, you walk past that massive line to the first class line and they swoop you right on through. You get to your seat quicker, and can finish that deal call.

Really, if you appreciate your time this is the way to fly.

What’s more, flying first class actually drives you to want to achieve more. Once you experience what first class is like (hint: There’s a reason that they call it “first class”) it drives you to want to achieve more in your business and in your life.

It’s really not about flying first class; it’s a lifestyle choice and one that carries over to many parts of your life and business. I know many folks who have adopted this mindset and have done very well and the best part is they are getting there in first class style.

How I’m Able To Charge More For My Properties In A Competitive Business

For example, another realization that I experienced sitting in first class was that I could offer a first class service to my investors and add a first class service fee to the price of property and allow them to enjoy the ride. Today, 100% of my business is first class turnkey investments that allow my clients to sit back and enjoy the profits every month.

Once you realize that you have options — that some clients want first class options and some don’t want them, and that’s fine — it opens up a new world of opportunity in whatever business you’re in. I just made a choice to live life first class style and realized that it’s pretty good on this side. Try it, I’m confident you’ll grow from it.


The DM livin’ and drivin’ in first class style

There’s more, too: You meet other people in first class who are already at the level you want to be at. That creates positive upward connections that are great for business (they see you in first class so it positions you as one of their peers).

(And another bonus for me and for anyone else who loves to travel: First class makes the journey as enjoyable as the destination rather than the annoying thing you need to tolerate to get where you want to go).

Here’s Where The Magic Happens

When you fly first class (or do anything at a level higher than you’re at right now) you end up unconsciously changing your habits and actions to meet you at that level. So when you fly first class, you end up doing things that first class thinkers do – like doing bigger deals and making more money per deal and doing more deals (just to name a few things).

That’s because our ACTIONS meet our EXPECTATIONS. So if we set first class expectations, our actions will level up to meet our expectations. We all have experienced this at many levels. Think about this: Think of your first car you ever bought, or your first apartment maybe; could you imagine driving or living in those conditions now? The only thing that’s changed is YOU! The cars are still there; the apartment is still there…

… But WE are the ones that have changed.

This is true for everything, from the car you drive to the house you live in to the restaurants you eat at to the people you hang out with… when you play at a higher level, your actions in business and life will catch up to meet your expectations.

THE BOTTOM LINE: I don’t care how you define success… if you aspire to be successful then you need to start playing at that level today… and the rest of your life will catch up. And a great way to start is to fly first class.

I truly believe in an abundance world. If you focus on trying to save money and spend less, you end limiting your sense of abundance and you lower your idea of what you can have. (For example, if a plane ticket is for sale at $1000 and you trying to see if you can get it for only $700, you are lowering how you value yourself). When I started flying first class, I was spending more but I was living with an abundance mindset and I soon started making more money and was able to do more and give more to charity. Imagine that!

There is a lot in this world that you can enjoy and you won’t get there if you “nickel and dime” your way to it. The only way to do it is to adopt an abundance mentality — fly first class and LIVE first class!

Your first class friend and mentor,
Mark Evans DM,DN

PS, Here’s a great way to take your life to a first class level while you transform your investing business: I’ve got a Deal-A-Thon coming up shortly and if you’ve done at least a couple of deals and have $5K to spend on your business, I want you to help you implement the exact same systems and strategies that I use to do more deals virtually so I can live a first class life. It’s easy to tell me you’re ready: Just click here now to fill out the simple form and I’ll get in touch about my next Deal-A-Thon….

… Oh, and I want you to fly first class to the event!!!

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Make 2015 The Year You Quit Your Job And Truly Started Living ON YOUR TERMS

We’re already a couple months into 2015. What is the year shaping up to be like for you? Is it going to be the same as every other year? Or are you going to finally make the change you’ve been thinking (and dreaming) about making?

You know the change I’m talking about. The change that you wish you could make. The change that you dream about when your boss comes by and tells you to stay late. The change that you dream about when you miss another one of your daughter’s piano recitals because of work. The change that you dream about when you try to pay your bills each month.

THAT change. The change you dream about when that gets your heart racing but you think is totally unachievable.

You know what change I’m talking about… the life that you want to live versus the live you’re currently living. Chances are, the life you’re currently living isn’t how you want to be living.

I say: Make 2015 the year that changes everything for you. Make 2015 the year that you quit your job and start living YOUR life on YOUR terms.

Here’s my 3-step process to do that…

STEP 1: GIVE YOUR HEAD A SHAKE

Many people will read this blog post but only a few will ever act. By December 31, 2015, I suspect only a small handful will look back over the year and say “yes, I made the change in my life and now I’m living it the way I want to live it.” And as for the rest of the readers of this post? They’ll still be commuting to work, doing what the boss says, missing more recitals, struggling to pay the bills.

The reason is kind of depressing, actually: People want to live life on their own terms but they also get really comfortable and become creatures of habit. Every morning, every single one of us wakes up and we ask ourselves: “will I take a chance on something today or will I do the same thing I always do?” and our brains are hardwired to tell us to stick to our patterns.

It goes back to our caveman times, I guess, when we needed to stay safe and not get eaten by a saber-tooth tiger so we stuck to predictable patterns and didn’t venture too far away from the cave. Fast forward a couple million years and we’re still protecting ourselves from saber-tooth tigers by living the most predictably routine lives ever.

There’s nothing wrong with routine but it does have a huge drawback: It makes us comfortable and when we get comfortable we get lazy and when we get lazy we aren’t willing to change.

End result? You dream of having a better life for your family but your current level of comfort (even if it’s not always happy comfort) keeps you from making the changes necessary.

Worse yet, I see MILLIONS of Americans on this path… a path toward impoverished retirement: They work had at underpaying and thankless jobs and don’t put away enough money for retirement. They dream of making a change that can help them achieve financial freedom but their current level of comfort (even if they KNOW it’s inadequate to help them afford retirement) keeps them from making the changes they need to make (even if they KNOW those changes can help them afford retirement).

So give your head a shake. (A gentle shake). Tell yourself to WAKE UP and realize that the comfort you feel in your current life isn’t the best life you can live. Tell yourself that you can have the life you want to live by simply breaking out of your comfort zone and venturing a little bit (just a little bit) farther away from the cave than you have been.


The DM still pushes himself out of his comfort zone daily

Heck, you’ve already decided that the life you’ve been living isn’t the life you want to be living. You know that in your mind. Now it’s time to give your head a shake and get that thinking out of your mind and turn it into action.

STEP 2: GET EDUCATED

Lots of my students agree with step 1 and many will say “okay, DM, I’m in. Let’s make the changes in my life that need to happen.” And after a brief moment of silence, they say, “so what do I do now???

So step 2 is to get educated. You need to start learning about HOW to change your life. You need to figure out what’s working for other people and do what they do. (Good news: You’re on this blog, reading my stuff… which means you’re already part of the way there because I show my students exactly what I do; I don’t hold anything back).

There are many ways to get educated and I recommend that you do all of these: Read voraciously – blogs and social posts, read books, listen to podcasts. (GREAT NEWS: Here’s a list of things I’ve written that you can read and listen to. Check them all out for a full picture of how to invest)…

Get coaches and mentors. All top players have coaches and mentors (I have more than one… and Deena and I just invested nearly SIX FIGURES to hang out with my mentor on a yacht for a week. It was INSANELY awesome… I’m not suggesting you need to drop that much money right off the bat but I just wanted to show you that investors at all levels are willing to invest in their own education… I’ve been at this for 18+ years and I’m still learning every single day).


The DM, yachting in BVI’s while learning at the same time

Not sure where to start? Well, if I were in your situation, I’d sit down and write out every single question I had about how to change my life and how to invest in real estate. I’d write questions until my hand turned purple and I ran out of pads of paper. (Seriously, I’d fill up a couple pads of paper of questions, and you should too). And then I’d start digging into the resources I listed earlier for answers. And I’d stay up all night every night until I found all the answers I needed and had put them into a step-by-step plan.

Anything you need to know or don’t think you can do, write it down and see if there’s a solution. For example, one of the biggest things that hold people back from changing their lives is a lack of money to invest in real estate. So if that’s something that is holding you back from investing then write it down. And as you study, you’ll learn that there are several ways you can invest WITHOUT SPENDING A DIME OF YOUR MONEY. You can wholesale deals, which is a great way to get into real estate investing quickly, or you can invest by tapping into your 401(k) or IRA with a really cool, little-known trick. Or find great deals and use private money from a private investor (I don’t recommend this in the beginning but there is a a lot of money out there for investments). All it takes is some education and you’ll discover the exact path you need to take to change your life.

Which leads me to my third and final step for quitting your job and changing your life in 2015…

STEP 3: TAKE MASSIVE ACTION

I can make you a guarantee: If you are truly serious about making changes in your life and you get up every single day and take action, you WILL change your life. I guarantee it.

Unfortunately, most people SAY they want to make changes in their life but they don’t do anything about it (they get stuck at step 1), and those who push through and start getting educated often mistake education for action (they get stuck at step 2). Only those who first give their head a shake and then get educated and then TAKE ACTION (massive, relentless, daily action) will actually change their lives.

So what does that mean? Well, let’s compare two people, both of whom want to change their lives through real estate investing and who have taken some time to get educated.

Person A gets up and goes to work. They come home tired at the end of the day. They watch some TV and then go to bed, telling themselves that they’ll get to it tomorrow or on the weekend. (Although when the weekend rolls around, they are busy doing work around the house, trying to catch up on all the stuff they didn’t have time to do during the week).

Person B says: “I’m going to invest this year to change my life. I’m going to give up TV, give up just a little bit of sleep each day, and give up a part of my weekends, but it’s an investment into a better life for me and my family.” And so they get up every morning, half an hour before they used to, to get educated and to answer questions that they have about investing. And when they get home at night, they do a bit more reading and then put into action the things they learned. And on the weekends, they make a big list of actions they can take and they work hard until each one is done.

Which of those two people do you think is going to see changes by December 31, 2015? I promise you that one of them will and one of them won’t. I can make that promise because I’ve seen both types of people pretty frequently.

Sometimes taking action requires you to give up a little bit of something right now, temporarily, like television or even an extra hour of sleep. But if you commit to yourself to give these things up for 2015 and instead invest the time taking ACTION, you will likely make such a profound change in your life by the end of the year that you can spend even more time watching TV and sleeping (or doing whatever else you want to do!!!) than you ever did before.

Most people look at investors who are really rocking it out and they say: “How can I get to that level fast?” Well, I didn’t just accidentally trip into real estate investing and suddenly find myself reaching a level of investing that allowed me to float down a canal in Venice with Deena.


The DM took massive action to get here

This picture represents the massive action and even a little sacrifice to get there… Back before I was actually doing deals, when I owed another business, I used to get up at 4 in the morning to take action on real estate investing BEFORE I went to my other business to work.

Today I live where I want and travel the world and work whenever I want from whichever beach I want to work at. But it’s only because I took action that I can do that.

“Show me someone’s top 10 habits…
and I can predict their future” -The DM

Ready for change? Just do these 3 steps.

Yeah, it’s that simple. Don’t make it more complicated.

I know you’ve already decided to change your life and live it on your own terms. You dream about it night and day. Now it’s time to do something about it. So give your head a shake, get educated, and take action.

This is YOUR year!!!

Your friend and mentor,
Mark Evans DM,DN

PS, I want to put you on the fast track. So earlier in this blog post I mentioned that a lack of money sometimes kills the dreams of people who want to invest but think that they don’t have the money to do it. If you wrote that down on your pad of questions, then you should go check out show #28 of The Real Estate Power Hour podcast because I’ll reveal a little-known trick that can get you going faster with money you don’t even realize you have.

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